The games that people play.....

or better yet...ex husbands. He should be the master of head games. Last night C came home and handed me back the check that I wrote to play 1/2 of his auto insurance for the year. With the comment...Daddy wants you to call him...(all I could think was...why, is his dialing finger broke?). Anyway I called him...mistake #1. J said to me, I gave C that check to give back to you. I don't know how much his insurance will be. BULL!!! Then he started....I have a question for you...did you buy C a truck? And I thought, like I have to tell you???!

He then goes into the "talk" of C has a truck, and this about the insurance and that about the insurance. I said, wait a minute J...if he's on YOUR policy he's covered to drive MY vehicles...ALL of my vehicles. He replies...yes. So I say then what does it matter if I've bought him a truck...if he's covered...he's covered! He says to me, well I have to tell the insurance company what the primary vehicle will be that he will be driving. I said...what does it matter...if he's covered...he's covered.

Then he drops the major bomb on me...and I was seeing RED. If I could have gotten thru that phone last night I would have....well...I just would have. He said something about the truck that he had brought C. And I said....excuse me, but YOU told me that it wasn't C's truck...that YOU considered it YOUR 3rd vehicle. He replied back with...I NEVER SAID THAT!!!!....okay pick me up off the floor!! I said YES YOU DID! When I said something to you about C thinking that truck was his, you replied with NO That's OUR (he and his wife) 3rd vehicle. And I said to you....well C thinks of it as his, and you said to me...AGAIN...it's OUR 3rd vehicle. If I need it or Grandma needs it, then we WILL have it. He said back to me....AGAIN...I NEVER SAID THAT!!! OMGosh, I was livid...I was shaking...and on the verge of tears! All that J could keep saying was...did you buy him a truck? I wouldn't answer him...it's NONE of his business. He then went on with, well if you did, and I get the insurance it's going to MESS IT ALL UP! Seems to me...like I've said over and over....if he's covered....he's covered.

Then J said something to me about...DO NOT TELL HIM ANYTHING ABOUT THIS CONVERSATION. I replied with, I didn't tell him about the other one, because I KNEW it would crush him, to which I got back....there's nothing to crush him about. I said, yes there was...you said the truck wasn't his, so yes that would have crushed him.

Anyway, J is suppose to be getting the form that C needs to get his license today. And J said that he would take off a week from today on the 12th for C to get his license. The MAIN reason I won't tell J about the truck...which I did buy...was because he likes to TRY to control me as he did when we were married and the way he likes to control the kids. I wouldn't tell him because I KNEW if he knew then he would hold off getting the insurance and the form. After C gets his license the truck will come out of hiding....but not until that time. J also only wants to get insurance for him for ONLY 6 months instead of a year....which I know means, he'll start some crap about....well if you don't do this or you don't do that...then I'm NOT going to renew your policy. If J does NOT attempt to get the form or take C on Monday the 12th, then I'm putting C on my policy and I'm taking him....I'm SICK and TIRED of waiting on him. He's drug his feet long enough.

Also last night C was so down, that I had him sit in my room with me and talk to me. He started to tear up, and he said....Mama I'm tired. I said of what? He replied with, I'm so tired of hearing you say stuff about Daddy and Daddy saying stuff about you...I'm tired of well he said...or well she said. My heart dropped. I looked at him and said, honey I have tried NOT to say ANYTHING about your Daddy around you or your sister. I'm sorry. Then I promised NOT to talk about his father around him again.